Name : Chris Parker Test Taken on : 27 Oct 2003
Personalized		The Unwanted Partner Report

Chris, there is a strong prevalence of harsh start-ups in your relationship. Harsh start-up is the habit of beginning your interactions with criticism or contempt. Research shows that conversations that begin this way are doomed to failure. In fact, the outcome of 96 percent of conversations could be predicted based on what happened in the first three minutes. Consequently, it may not matter how much a partner wants to improve his/her relationship. If he/she starts a lot of the conversations by insults or hurting the partner's feelings, they won't make much progress. However, it's with a lot of dedication that a relationship survives the ups and downs of life. Good communication plays... Report Continues... The Six Signs and Symptoms of an Unhealthy Relationship: First Sign: Harsh Start-up A Harsh Start Up is Being Used When: Discussions lead off with criticism and/or sarcasm (forms of contempt). Conversations start with blaming. Second Sign: The Four Horsemen Negative interaction styles that are particularly destructive in couple relationships are known as the four horsemen. All couples use these styles from time to time. The frequency and intensity with which the couple uses these styles of relating, makes them destructive and a sign of marital distress. The Four Horsemen are: Horseman 1: Criticism Complaints about the other person are common in a relationship. But there is a difference between a complaint and a criticism... Report Continues... Defensiveness Report Continues... Report for: Chris Parker