Name : Chris Parker Test Taken on : 25 Sept 2003
		Personalized Self-Regulation Report

Chris, you are usually unfazed by anything. This means that you are usually well equipped to handle your emotions but you do 'blow your top' or 'lose your cool' every now and then. With a little bit of practice you would be better able to manage yourself and your feelings. Learn to control yourself under conditions of stress. This will enable you to become a better person who is more in control of himself/herself. Report Continues... Self-Regulation Index Self-regulation is about managing feelings so that you behave in a manner that is appropriate for the circumstances. If you have experienced a setback of some kind, it is about being able to find a perspective that enables you to shake off irritability, gloom or immobilizing anxiety. People who are lacking in this ability are forever battling with feelings of distress, and dwelling on things by refusing to 'let things lie'. So-called soap operas on television are full of such people, but that is the point, of course. You don't manage your feelings in a television drama; you just let them 'hang out' for everyone to see. In contrast, there are those who are able to bounce back quickly from whatever life throws at them. Politicians and top sporting personalities are good at this, and have to be. You will often hear them calmly say, 'It's happened. There's nothing I can do about it; let's move on.'... Report Continues... It is important, therefore, to distinguish between assertive and aggressive forms of behaviour. You are behaving assertively when you express your thoughts, feelings and beliefs in direct, honest ways that do not violate another person's integrity. Assertion involves showing respect for both your own needs and feelings and for those of other people. By contrast, you are behaving aggressively when you express your thoughts, feelings and beliefs in ways that humiliate, degrade, belittle or overpower other people. A common and particularly cowardly form of aggression, where the desire to humiliate is obvious, is throwing out some hurtful remark or aside with no regard for its consequences. In other words, aggression is where little or no respect is shown for thoughts and feelings other than your own - behaviour that shows a lack of both self-regulation and empathy. Report Continues... Report for: Chris Parker